Do you desire to be “one of those” people. The ones who are magnets, drawing you in.
What is it about them?
What is it about them? They seem to have the spark. Full of life, light, joy, laughter.
Even during times of adversity.
“In prosperity our friends know us, in adversity we know our friends.” (LL) Churton Collins
Happiness and Influence
Are you one of these individuals? Do people hang on to your every word. Do they want to know your secret to happiness. Are you able to influence, either directly, or indirectly?
Are you happy with your life?
Recently a conversation occurred. This individual intuitively knew they were missing something. After talking they knew what they wanted to do. It is never too late, 65, and taking action. On reflection they desired an epitaph that would mention contribution…in the world.
Magic Formula – Share It
If you’ve found the magic formula, way to go! Share it. Let us know what it is you do that helps Others.
Keys to Connection
What are the keys to building connection:
Believe. Be authentic. Do for Others. Think outside yourself. Be genuine. Caring. Empathetic. Be happy.
Show gratitude through words, and actions.
Simply by Doing
Simply by doing with no hidden agendas. Simple kindnesses have far reaching impact. Will stress, we may never know, and that shouldn’t matter.
As I was going over the draft of this article. By happenstance an old friend from many years ago contacted me through Facebook.
She made reference to a meal I had prepared for her, the delicious brussel sprouts with apricots. How that memory brought us both joy.
Then she had kind words for my brother-in-law Joby, so I mentioned this to him. This is the ripple effect of connection.
A quote from my favourite philosopher, “He that gives should not remember, he that receives should never forget.” (W) Ralph Waldo Emerson. Thank-you Gabriela.
It is about doing for Others without expectation.
Close your eyes. Take a deep breathe. Ahhhh, sigh. Think about a time you were able to give someone “joy.” Were you affected? Did you experience an Omg moment? Were there tears of joy. Do you recall how this experience made you feel?
This is connection.
Each and every one of us can and should be making an effort to bring Others joy.
You want to be “one of those” people. For some it is innately in their nature. Then we have our nature versus nurture. An entirely new article.
Practice Practice Practice
We can all practice. “Practice makes perfect.” (LL) author unknown
You need to apply yourself through practice. Perhaps some are naturally more empathetic. Yet all of us can learn and absorb from Others.
- Listen to what Others are saying
- Keep mental notes
- Watch their facial expressions
- Learn to pick up cues
- Hear their intonations
They will always speak in their natural voice. Tyler, Oprah, Ellen. T.O.E. (change-makers). Everyone can make a difference to someone.
When we listen to someone when they are in “their moment” sharing a story with a passionate heart. Listen.
Perhaps they are re-living a childhood memory, remembering a special place, person, or book. What if you found that special book and gave it to them as a gift. You would be blessed in re-living “that moment”. Experience all that joy, over again.
This is connection.
“Those people” receive these moments as they are on people’s radar. They are living their lives by building connections.
Practice random acts of kindness – always. You will discover the ripple effects.
A personal story:
Sometimes the little things we do have a bigger effect than you realize. “This is the beauty in not knowing. It doesn’t matter – just know it does matter.” (LL) Chris Toda
My boss ( while I was working ) at the Vancouver Police Department, Manager, Lisa Hoogstins is caring, thoughtful, and empathetic. How fortunate I was.
For my birthday she gave me this beautiful bouquet of flowers, rather large for me to carry home on public transit!
I was on the SkyTrain with my flowers. I noticed an elderly woman. Her clothes were worn, she had a weathered face, a kind smile.
She said. “Your flowers are beautiful.” She had this look of longing in her eyes. Immediately she mentions to me that she was going to the hospital to see her friend who was dying.
At this moment. I am listening. It is my call to action.
I then responded with, “I would really appreciate if you would take these flowers. Having an allergy to pollen, it would truly help me out.”
She graciously accepted the bouquet and indicated her friend “loves flowers.” She nodded her head in appreciation. We parted ways.
The next day I was going to the hospital to visit a friend.
I walked by three nurses having a conversation. One of them was wiping away tears. I overheard the words: bouquet, SkyTrain, friend…
….you know….it is the ripple effect.