What if you could tap into happiness?
Do you want to be happy?
Do you even know what truly makes you happy?
Are you one “of those” people that others are drawn towards? That person who exudes positive energy, the one “I want to know, and do what they are doing.”
The type of people who readily give and receive joy so freely. Close your eyes.
Do you hear their laughter, see their smiles, feel their generosity of spirit. Are you one of “them”. They draw us in, want to know their not so secrets about happiness….let’s journey…and find such an inspiring individual.
Shawn Achor is one of “these” people. He is the author of The Happiness Advantage, TED talk speaker.
At my happy place, the local library, when I heard a thump, and saw this bright orange book on the floor. It was The Happiness Advantage. Whenever a book falls off the shelf it is a serendipitous moment, a sign I choose, to indicate…”read me.”
Love to learn, curious about everything. Recently I saw Shawn’s TED talk The happy secret to better work.
He is infectious in his manner of speaking. Right from the get go you are drawn in…talking about unicorns, brother-in-law named Bobo and invisible sniper bullets you have to watch the video and let yourself be engaged.
Learn, and share. His TED talk is on a separate blog post. Worthy of repeat watching.
Shawn’s book is chocked full of information. Easily digestible with applicable exercises. Words that make you think. Detailed researched articles to explore, making you want to know more.
“The more we know, the better we do.” (LL) Christine Toda.
His book gives your face a physical workout. You will find yourself smiling. It’s as though your face ran a marathon.
Take what you need from the book, and apply all that you require on your journey to “happiness.” Recently I saw an article about “must read” book referencing. This is a subjective point.
When I choose to do book summaries, the goal is to lead you to a possibility.
As Emily Dickenson said, “Dwell in Possibility.” (W)
To give an idea of content, to share a passion. Not to expose the entire book. My continual want and desire is to be that conduit.
To be grateful to all that share the wisdom and knowledge they have acquired. So that all of us may walk away knowing more. Today may you learn about being happy.
What I took away from The Happiness Advantage, and what will be shared.
Word: Eudaimonia which translates not directly to “happiness” but to “human flourishing.”
Love how Shawn mentions he keeps a small steno pad and pen by his nightstand. Sheryl Lean, Chief Operating Officer of Facebook keeps a pen and notepad in her purse. I keep a mini notepad and pencil in my bag. Great minds think alike! Humour is a good thing.
Shawn mentions rose coloured glasses. I love this analogy. As a psychiatrist friend told me years ago that he wished others could see the world through my rose coloured glasses. Shawn’s comments added perspective…read his book!
“Finding the Path Up.” I cannot indulge the stories in the book. There are many with lessons. You will have to read the book in its entirety.
The book is a combination of detailed researched discussion, and laymen analogies.
As with many good books. I took copious notes, have further research to do, many words I had to refer to the dictionary, and have a list of further reading. This helps continue the thread of learning…so exciting.
You go to the library, check out one book, and have a further reading list of twenty more!
Have you heard the story of the two shoe salesmen who were sent to Africa? Page…
Page 163 Drunk Dialling…puts a smile 😊on your face.
A book that makes you want to take action, seek out answers, initiate change.
I want/need to know more about “Opt Out” for organ donation. Makes absolute sense. This requires further research, separate post forthcoming.
When we find information that can make change happen, it is our moral obligation to do our part to let others know.
Barbara Fredrickson, researcher at North Carolina: 10 most Common Positive Emotions: joy, gratitude, serenity, Interest, hope, pride, amusement, inspiration, awe, and love.
“Positive emotions actually expand our peripheral line of vision.”
Page 50 – “Each principle in this book contributes to at least one, if not many, of the things scientists have found to be most crucial to human happiness, like pursuing meaningful life goals, scanning the world for opportunities, cultivating an optimistic and grateful mindset, and holding on to rich social relationships.”
“…that The Happiness Advantage also lies in the small, momentary blips of positivity that pepper our lives each and every day…”
“Meditation takes practice, but it’s one of the most powerful happiness interventions.”
“Studies have shown that in the minutes right after meditation, we experience feelings of calm and contentment, as well as heightened awareness and empathy.”
Beautiful story about Chip Conley. Makes you want to share what he is doing about recognition and the ripple effect. “Just as important as what you say to employees is how you say it.”
Love, love quotes:
“A lens of gratitude, hope, resilience, optimism, and meaning.”
“We can use our brain to change how we process the world, and that in turn changes how we react to it.”
“The power of mindset to shape reality.”
Page 82 – “What we expect from people (and from ourselves) manifests itself in the words we use, and those words can have a powerful effect on end results.”
“Changing the Fulcrum and Lever of those around you.”
Page 85 The Pygmalion effect.
“The Belief the teachers had in the students’ potential had been unwittingly and non-verbally communicated. More important, those non-verbal messages were then digested by the students’ and transformed into reality.”
Page 96 – red.
Page 97 – Psychologist Robert Emmons.
Page 98 – Gratitude!
“Countless other studies have shown that consistently grateful people are more energetic, emotionally intelligent, forgiving, and less likely to be depressed, anxious, or lonely.”
“Talbeh-Shahar likes to say, “Things do not necessarily happen for the best, but some people are able to make the best out of things that happen.”
Reminds me of one of my fave quotes:
I compared notes with one of my friends who expects everything of the universe, and is disappointed when anything is less than the best, and I found that I begin at the other extreme, expecting nothing, and am always full of thanks for moderate goods. (W) Ralph Waldo Emerson
Daniel Coleman book, Emotional Intelligence. Yeah, add to reading list!
Quotes: “Common sense is not common action.”
“Because in life, knowledge is only part of the battle. Without action, knowledge is often meaningless.”
Page 171 – “Social Investment. Why Social Support is Your Single Greatest Asset.”
Harvard Men Study, “70 years of evidence that our relationships with other people matter, and matter more than anything else in the world.” See TED talk (separate post). What makes a good life? By Robert Waldinger, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development.
“In a study appropriately titled, “Very Happy People.” Researchers sought out the characteristics of the happiest 10 percent among us…turns out, there was one – and only one characteristic that distinguished the happiest 10 percent from everybody else – the strength of their social relationships.”
“The point is, the more social support you have, the happier you are, the more advantages you accrue in nearly every domain in life.”
Page 177 – read!
Quote: “The person we have the greatest power to change is ourselves.”
Book: Connected, Nicholas Cristakis & James Fowler.
“Positive emotional contagion starts when people subconsciously mimic the body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions of those around them.”
One of my all time fave quotes about the tone of voice:
Words are the least part of communication, communication is in much the tone. The tone of the voice registers the flight of communication…so much more than the stringing of words. (LL) Rex Murphy
This book inspired me to talk about it, blog about it, and share. Although I have many more books that were summarized in the past year. This one, I felt was necessary to share.
The entire book is quotable. There is a wealth of information, perspective. Let this book help you obtain your happiness advantage. Allow yourself to become “one of those” people. Be happy, be infectious. Share your joy.
Live your life with purpose, and gain the knowledge to help others find their happiness. Make that possibility a reality.