Life Lesson: Cultivating the art of listening

Life Lesson:

“They make you feel better not merely passively absorbing, but by actively supporting.” (W)

“It seems strange to some, but you listen with your eyes as well as your ears.” (W)

Quotes from article, Communication, listening, published in the Harvard Business Review by Jack Zenger and Joseph Folkman.

Words from Jenna Ushkowitz in her book “Choosing Glee”. Jenny mentions Listen Up. “How many times have you asked someone, “Hey, how’s it going?” but never ever stopped to listen to the answer?” (WW)  She also states “Care – it’s a very simple concept. Care about what makes people tick, and take time to hear them out.” (WW) Jenna Ushkowitz.

Listening is a skill.

We can do better.

Time for the elastic band technique. Reminder, wear that band and zap yourself every time you are not actively involved with what the other person is saying. For example, if they are talking about their recent trip. Try not to respond by your stories. Let them have this moment.

The art of Listening. Why is it important? Because there may be a time when someone needs you to listen, and be there for them. If they don’t have a connection with you, then there may come a time when you need them, and they won’t be available.

We all need connection.

We want to be loved, and truly feel and know that we are cared for.

A simple act of listening can be HUGE.

Let someone else do the talking. Ask questions and make someone feel important, don’t just monopolize the conversation. Since I’m a big talker, this is tough for me to do. I have to literally zip my lip and not interrupt. I have to remember that conversation is dialogue, not a monologue.” (LL) Jenna Ushkowitz

I know that I can talk and text long conversations. I keep my duct tape with me as a symbol to remind me.

The importance of listening, not only with your eyes but with your heart.

To listen to what is being said, and equally if not more important listen to what is not being said.

To cultivate the skill of being a good listener is something to strive towards.

How rewarding if you are “one of those” who are told that you possess this skill.

In my lifetime…I can count those individuals on one hand.

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2 thoughts on “Life Lesson: Cultivating the art of listening

  1. Elizabeth Armour

    Thank you for the rubber band suggestion! I am going to use that to help me remember that I already know ‘my’ story…but I am trying to listen to yours…

    1. todallychris Post author

      Hi Elizabeth,
      You have a way with words. Thanks for the insightful comment.
      I have been observing more as of late, to those who listen without interjection. Very interesting.

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