Louie Schwartzberg: Ted Talk, Nature. Beauty. Gratitude.
7 Effective Ways to Make Others Feel Important.
1. Use their name.
2. Express sincere gratitude.
3. Do more listening than talking.
4. Talk more about them than about yourself.
5. Be authentically interested.
6. Be sincere in your praise.
7. Show you care.”
(G) Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the heart
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Keeping track of the simplest gestures that others have shown you. Write these acts in a journal or on pieces of paper and put them in a jar. Note the kindnesses you do for others. Always give from the heart with no expectation. Keeping “track” of who does what defeats the purpose. If you want to receive joy – give joy. However you choose to journal or scribble notes doesn’t matter. What matters is as David Steindl-Rast said…”It’s not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratefulness that makes us happy.” Journalling is for yourself. If there are blank pages or no notes in your jar then reflect on what you may want to change in your life to receive what it is you want.
Creating and giving a gratitude journal as a gift. A gift that doesn’t cost money, only the gift of your time, and the response of a grateful receiver.
The Handwritten Thank-You Note:
When was the last time you received a handwritten thank-you note? Do you recall how that made you feel? I love them. These days with social media it is easy to send a text, email, tweet, or post. We have forgotten the long lost art of the handwritten thank-you note. In Randy Pausch’s book Life Lessons. He dedicates a chapter to the thank-you note. When you read his book you will see how a thank-you note can change the direction of your life, and open doors that were previously closed.
Write a love letter or letter of appreciation:
Why is it we often wait until there is no more time left? To tell the people in our lives how much they mean to us. How we are grateful for their “being”. We write letters to our kids or parents when we are faced with death. Why not do it anytime, and all the time. To go to your mailbox and find a letter from a previous student letting you know the impact you had on them. That they became a teacher because of you. I was fortunate early in my life to receive a letter that had a profound impact – it changed the direction of my life, it gave me meaning.
Write that letter, a simple way to show your gratitude.
Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply.